most people know it by its other name: coincidences. however, there are no such things as coincidences. i believe this more and more now. you call it a coincidence and then that incident never crosses your mind again. i was in the car with my cousin and his wife recently. we drove past her old high school in long beach and she was telling us what had happened on one of the days following the rodney king beating in los angeles. news had spread of the riots which had just begun. it was a school day. the school decided for the students' safety that they need to let the students out of school now. (it was around 11 a.m.). my cousin's wife is white. she takes the bus. so she went to wait for the bus. there was some sort of commotion going on at the bus stop and before it had escalated, at that moment, her friend's mom was just driving past that corner, saw her, and yelled at her to get in the car. she got in and got home safely. (she learned later that something also happened on her bus). there is no way that that was a coincidence. although, she thinks it is.
anyhow, i only started seeing coincidences as synchronicities recently. once i did, i could see that i've been experiencing them for a few years now. when i arrived in france in 2009, those coincidences were all synchronicities. sometime after i arrived home when life started going downhill, though, it stopped. it started again at the end of last year.
right now, i'm having a hard time making a decision regarding where to go to work. i could a) go work at a store that's very close to home, where i could walk home. the work is retail. the pay would be small. i could do that for a short while while i volunteer in an office somewhere to gain more experience. i would then wait for something to open up at ikea. my other option is b) go back to ikea. now. it is far. i would need someone to pick me up after closing which due to the distance is a problem. i figured maybe take the first option. take driving lessons again. once i get more comfortable driving, i can then go back to ikea. (did i mention gas is now at $4/gallon?) although, with the first option saving up for a used car will take longer.
how does this tie into synchronicities? well, awhile ago i was on facebook. in the corner was a notification that reminded me it was a friend's birthday today. this friend used to work at the club. she left to start on her career. i go to look at her facebook page. one of the things that she "liked" was a club in her hometown. i scroll through their fb page. i come across my friend's picture but i just thought she was there to volunteer. i keep scrolling. i see another picture of her. above the picture is her title at the club. she now works there. she has moved back to northern california and has gone back to work for her old club. she must have had a hard time finding work in southern california. i remember her saying moving back home would be her last resort.
then a short while ago, i was just checking up on
ask a manager, a work-related blog, and this was part of its newest post:
1. Can I tell my former employer that I want to come back?
I worked for an employer a little over 4 years. It was my first
job out of college and I was feeling really tied down and restless and
wanted to try a new environment, so I switched from a consulting firm to
working in an internal corporate role. I’m basically miserable at my
new job. I don’t really like any of coworkers and just don’t feel like
its a good fit. I liked my old job better and feel like I had a little
quarter-life crisis and case of the grass is greener. It’s only been 6
months since I left.
reading that, i felt i was reading about myself (not all of it relates to me, though).
- i had worked at ikea for almost four years.
- it was pretty much my first real job out of college.
- i did go through a quarter-life crisis when i was there.
and now i am considering going back. it seems to be the only place that would hire me without much difficulty. i am still not sure if i'm ready for that hr generalist position considering my experiences in an office setting so far. tomorrow is the last day to apply. sigh.
